Dating aa member
Recovering addicts don’t expect perfection in their partners, having learned firsthand that it doesn’t exist.
And they have committed – in recovery and in life – to honesty and integrity and making decisions in accordance with their values.
Newcomers shudder at the prospect of never (ever, ever) being able to drink again. Even more importantly, if I, after 31 years, 2 months, and 4 days, fall off the wagon, what have I lost? It makes it easier to clamber back on again, and go for that 90 day chip. Respect the first tradition: anonymity Which, of course, is what I’m flagrantly not doing here.
I've been in and out of the program for quite a while.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.
Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?
Just because you're sober doesn't mean a relative won't pass away in the first year or that you won't lose your job in the first year. Jay- I didn't date in my first year, I needed some time to work on myself.Some are deeply spiritual people whose lives are infused with meaning and purpose, while others volunteer in their communities or have interesting hobbies that keep them grounded.Because recovery is a lifelong process, recovering addicts are in a perpetual state of self-improvement.Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.