Racism in dating
When Hadiya Roderique created her Tinder profile, the 36-year-old lawyer and Ph D student was told she'd be "bombarded" by messages from eager men on the online dating app.She'd put together what she thought was a witty profile, accompanied by several attractive photos.So, when racism invades your personal space, a space you’ve spent time cultivating in such a way as to gravitate love and cute faces your way, you are allowed to rage against the machine. Let’s imagine you get a message that goes a little something like this: The problem is not with the police.The problem is with ignorant, entitled children who feel like they are above showing respect for authority figures and think they can behave however they want without consequences.‘Yellow fever’ – a phenomenon whereby men (usually white) fetishise Asian women – is terrifyingly common, and in the age of online dating, your exotic dream girl is only a click away. This fetishisation often comes down to problematic stereotypes of Asian women: docile, subservient, sexually submissive but totally down to fuck.In the eyes of these men, we assume a monolithic identity.
If you think they’d respond better to pictures, attach a few tumblr and twitter memes to that outgoing message.
What’s the difference between having a “type” and fetishisation?
And how does it feel when you’re constantly approached sexually and romantically because of your race? “I have a real thing for Oriental women.” “I’ve always wanted to have sex with an Asian.” “I travelled to Vietnam a few years ago. ” When I was 25, following a major breakup, I dipped my toes into the pool of online dating for the first time.
The informal experiment led Roderique to a disheartening conclusion: "People aren't as open as perhaps they claim to be." Roderique joined CTV's Your Morning Wednesday, to share the details of her social experiment, which highlighted what she says are some of the underlying realities of the supposedly liberal-minded dating scene in Toronto.
"When you conduct interviews with people, they generally express that they are happy to date outside their race," she said.